I'll throw my hat into the ring.
For working up a load, I think your 5-grain increments are perfectly reasonable to start. That'll get you into the "accuracy window" efficiently. Once you find a promising node - say it tightens up at 70 grains - then it can make sense to experiment in 2-3 grain tweaks if you're chasing a competition-level load. But most guns won't show enough difference to justify fussing in 1-grain steps.
Personally, my rule of thumb:
Hunting load development- 5 grain increments all day long.
Match tuning / paper punching- Find the node in 5s, then fine tune in 2-3s if the rifle seems sensitive.
And honestly? With black powder firearms, patch/ball fit and consistent loading technique usually matter more than 2 grains of powder either way.
Then again, you may not want to take advice from someone with the forum handle of "Second-rate Marksman"...
