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Reenacting with kids
« on: September 08, 2019, 11:07:42 AM »
Just saw this piece and thought it might be interesting to some of our younger members...and then, some of us have grandkids...

The Secret to Reenacting with Children
on September 06, 2019

This is a topic that is near & dear to my heart. Maybe more so than first person interpretation & you know how much I talk about *that*!

As a mother, and a reenactor, incorporating my kid into my beloved hobby has been a constant issue, something I ponder on long drives and late at night especially. I didn’t discover reenacting until my daughter was already 5, but thanks to many friends, I have gotten the chance to enjoy reenactor children of all ages & in all time periods. Heck, after over a decade in the hobby, some of those children are full fledged adults now!

There are four distinct stages of children in the reenacting hobby. Each requires a different focus but they all share the need for flexible parenting skills, the patience of a saint, the creativity of an artist & if you’re lucky, the help of a few friends.

Babies - Comfort
Your comfort as a new parent, still stumbling around half awake at all hours of the day and theirs as a tiny new human still adjusting to life in the open air is all that really matters. If that means wearing a modern bra because it makes nursing easier and more comfortable, do it. If that means only day tripping to an event, or staying at a hotel at night, do it. If that means they wear disposable diapers or suck on a modern pacifier, fine. The only thing that matters is that you & the little one are comfortable enough just *being* at an event. Bringing your infant to a reenactment helps them integrate into the reenacting world from day one & expands the concept of living history into every aspect of life.

Sure there may be some people, inevitably those without children, who criticize the comfort measures you take because they “aren’t authentic”. You have my blessing to tell them to stuff it, especially if they don’t have an infant depending on them for every need. Frankly, the fact that you are even considering venturing out to an event with an infant in tow, deserves a reward.

Toddlers - Creativity
The terrible twos and trying threes are tough in the modern world, throw in different clothes, funny food, new people and it could be a recipe for disaster. Some of the comfort measures you took with a baby at reenactments, might still be needed for your toddler as well.

Now is also the time to start introducing your little one to the special things that only happen at an event. Maybe that is a special necklace like the one with a large goat bell that my daughter used to only get to wear in camp (which also helped me find her when she would wander off!). Maybe it’s a special, period correct toy like blocks or a wooden gun that only come out when you are at an event. Maybe it’s the special dessert of s'mores, cooked over the fire before washing up and heading home for the evening. Using a little creativity and being prepared with a few special, camp only surprises, can add an extra level of enjoyment to a toddlers camp experience. Those surprises can also give his parents a little leverage against melt-downs & other unforeseen issues that pop up at the worst moments.


Kids - Cooperation
The school-aged years are some of the best times to be reenacting with kids. They are old enough to be interested in history & actively learn from the reenactment environment, can entertain themselves with newly made camp friends easily and can even begin doing their own historic demonstrations. This is the golden age if you ask me. These are the years of cooperation, when they really get involved in everything we are doing at events. There is nothing quite as fun as introducing a fascinated 7 year old to archery, or seeing a 10 year old explain the process of churning butter to her friends. Find what interests them, and encourage them in every way possible. If you are lucky, they will get just as excited about an event and all the activities available as we get. They are the future of the hobby after all.

Pre-teens/Teens - Compromise
As if it wasn’t hard enough to keep them in historic clothing while they grow! Sometimes keeping up with their changing attitudes can be just as difficult. On top of it all, this is the age when outside activities start to take precedence. Sports, school projects, friends and everything else outside of reenacting can make it hard to even find the time to attend events regardless of their attitude. There is only one way to survive the pre-teen and teen years: compromise. It might be something small like letting your 14 yr old daughter dress as a boy because she doesn’t “do” dresses anymore. It might be big like bringing, & dressing, their friends so they aren’t the only teen in camp. It might even be the biggest compromise of all, letting them stay home.

Rest assured, even if they stop being interested in living history as teens, there is still a chance they will come back to the hobby once they are young adults. I’ve seen it happen with a few friends. Once adult life hits they suddenly remember how much fun reenacting was & want to recapture that feeling.

If worse comes to worse & they never return to the hobby, there are always the grandkids!

What is your biggest tip when it comes to reenacting with your kids?

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Re: Reenacting with kids
« Reply #1 on: September 08, 2019, 12:13:32 PM »
With but one or two exceptions, every young person we've known, who weathered all the various stages you mentioned, when they got out of high school, they got out of reenacting.  Bye bye, they're gone, see you later.  Too bad, we really miss them.  Adios.
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Re: Reenacting with kids
« Reply #2 on: September 08, 2019, 07:54:31 PM »
Young adults have very little time for recreation.  Between starting a family, advancing a career, and trying to make ends meet they just don't have time to devote to a serious hobby.  I wasn't able to rendezvous until I retired.  I did introduce my boys to it.  They still go with me on occasion when they can get free.
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Re: Reenacting with kids
« Reply #3 on: September 08, 2019, 08:50:37 PM »
That's why we have grand kids... :)

In some cases the grand kids eventually take the place of our kids when they use to go to Rendezvous with us. Yes, they too will go through a spell when they get older that they will no longer go to the Rendezvous with us - it's just part of growing up and leaving some things behind as they pursue new interests in those teen years, then off to their career goal, then family, and then new interests with their young ones...

This is not to say they all go through this and never find their way back to camp, as some do... However, I think the odds are against us in many cases.

Look how folks our age who are in their 60's, and older. The outdoors was the place to be. That's where things were happening, and camping was the name of the game for a whole lot of us - and we tried to pass it on to our kids, but as the world continues to modernize, well,,, we kind'a get left behind with what was once the "outdoor" thing to do, (the family camping and fishing trips, the Rendezvous, hunting, and we got replaced by electronics.

Yes, some may come back to a simpler place and time, but our hobby is hard pressed to compete with the creature comforts that new generations grow accustom to.

With all the above said, I feel it's important to at least try and keep the younger generation interested in our muzzle loading hobby, be it; Rendezvous, Trekking, Hunting, Shooting, Building a Muzzle Loader, and just anything that pertains to our hobby lifestyle... They (our youth) may not come back to it, but some might... So I guess we'll just keep at it until the last person dowses the campfire and tops it off with dirt... Hopefully we still have some good years a'head of us for participation from all ages.  :shake   
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Re: Reenacting with kids
« Reply #4 on: September 09, 2019, 09:09:42 AM »
Thanks for such thoughtful comments, Joe. I think you are absolutely correct.

All of us try to pass on the joy of the outdoors, or at least, I think most of us do. And that is all we can do. I agree it seems harder now than earlier, but I still enjoy sharing my limited knowledge with others.

I went on an overnight trek earlier this week and while staring into the fire and meditating after my simple dinner I thought about my youngest grandson. A year ago he would go camping with me at the drop of a hat...now, he has begged off the last two invites...He is hooked into his video games. It is too sad for words...

But, my nephew and his two sons are getting more involved every day...so the beat goes on. And I guess that is all we can hope for, right?
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